Okay so I'm not literally ranting about short and sweet, I meant it's going to be short and sweet. I have been trying to write this post all day, I schedule my posts the night before for all the east coast readers. Since I'll still be in La La land, hopefully sleeping.
And my day job got in the way. Yes I've ranted about time management before. And yes apparently I still have a lot of work to do.
Husbands. What do you do with them? Aside for the obvious. Let me tell you what I mean. I now work from 1pm to 10 pm each night. I'm rarely able to fall into bed and go to sleep as soon as I hang up after my last phone call.
You ask, what does this have to do with husbands? I'm trying to tell you, give me a minute.
Prior to my day job, I had the luxury of writing full time. My husband would go to work very early so he was basically home at 10am. So he was always home during most of my day. And he'd putter in the garage, around the house, out side or go watch TV (ESPN) in his bat cave in the basement.
And most the time I'd go to bed and watch TV about 10ish and have time to myself. In other words I saw him at lunch and dinner and the rest of the time I was at my computer. No I didn't write as much as I should have. I blame it on social media. That's another rant.
Now I have a job, he doesn't. He's there in the kitchen when I'm in the kitchen. He comes into my office in the morning when I'm TRYING to get something accomplished before work. "What you doing?" Then when I do start work, if he thinks he hears me move from my office (I work on the phones from home) he races up because he thinks it's my break. Who knew, because when I tell him something he seems to be deaf. Again I veer from my course.
10pm comes, he has popcorn ready and is on the bed, TV on ready to watch with me. Like now. He's got it up to hear splitting, I can smell the butter, and I can feel him waiting for me. (No just to watch TV, get your mind out the gutter)
What is up with that? It is DRIVING me insane. When am I going to ever write again? I can't even write on my breaks or lunch.
How do you ladies manage? Those of you who have retired husbands? I don't want to hurt his feelings, I think he thinks he's trying to be supportive because he knows I didn't want to go back to work. When I had to go back to work I thought the only thing I would have to learn is time management, now it seems I need to thrown in delicately handle hubby management. Suggestions?
Okay so it didn't turn out so short and sweet.
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Mary: I had to laugh when I read your post.
My husband travels a GREAT deal. It means I have two lives, the he-is-home-life and the I'm-on-my-own-life. It's always been this way and I think it works out very well. Doesn't give us time to squabble (grin).
I'll never forget the time, though, when my older daughter was about six. Jon had been home for a couple of days and was re-entering the parenting role. I received lots of rolled eye glances from my two kids.
One morning my daughter asked me to please come with her in the other room. I followed. In a loud whisper, as only a child can do, she said, "Mommy, when is he leaving? It's time for Daddy to travel. How do we get him a plane ticket?"
Hang in there, girl. You are a problem solver. I know you can solve this one too.
Oh my I feel your pain. I cherish my days when hubby leaves for work and kids go to school. I can handle all the crazies as long as I have "me" time. When he stays home for whatever reason, it throws me off, so I retire to the basement and say I have to work. See you later.
Maybe you should write down all the hours in the day that you are awake. And then write down your work hours, and then build in writing hours and hubby hours.
Then post that sucker where he can see it and tell him it is sacred. No interruptions no matter what during those times.
I love for schedules and stick to them or I'd get nothing done.
Good luck.
Mary,
I think Kari Lee has the best idea.
My hubby's retired, but fortunately for me, he still works a few days a week for the Union.
When he is here, I always say, give me two hours on the computer, and then we'll watch whatever you want to watch. It seems to work.
Hang in there. 2011 will be brighter for you.
Just when we think we have it all under control, something slips in to scramble the deck.
Cassy that something is called a husband. Glad I don't have one, or a wife either. Just a cat that tries to take over my computer chair every time I get up.
All good suggestions.
And I need to take myself in hand and figure out WHEN those two hours should be for me. And then stick to it.
That means--no email, social media, phone calls, etc. Just writing or editing time. And then STICK to it like glue.
Thanks everyone!
Lindsay, you are right. But, you take what you can when you can! As for the animals, I confess I have moments when they are far more time consuming than my dear man. But, I'd be lost without anyone of them!
I'm so glad I don't have cats or dogs, another added time muncher!
Ah, but they're great to have around and a lot cheaper than a significant other
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