Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Anita's Attic: Laughing At Your Flaws

Last week Kari blogged about being inspired by your surroundings. I’m very inspired by my surroundings but unfortunately, my surroundings are cluttered. J Does clutter make for a cluttered mind? That would explain the frustrations and fuzziness and woes I’ve been going through, unless it’s just menopause trying to sneak up and bite me in the butt while I’m in panic over my deadlines.

My mother is a lot like me, or I’m a lot like her. We’re kind, respect everyone and everything, have a witty sense of humor, love nature, and she loves bargains too. J But that’s where the similarity stops. My mother is not a shopaholic. Never has been. Never will be. She has NO debt, owns her house and her car, cans and puts away food every year. She’s as frugal as they come, yet she has everything she needs. Probably more. Her bargains…remember. And she’s never been overwhelmed a day in her life. When things got tough, and they did, she worked. She got up and did something. She tackles life and problems with a simplicity that is nothing short of brilliant. She would write a self help book. Why then, is her daughter (Me!) the opposite?

I wasn’t always this way. Well, I’ve always had too much stuff, and I’m always in a frenzy over something, but I used to laugh at my frenzy and I was neat. My house was so uncluttered that people probably weren’t comfortable. There was nothing out of place. Or course that was in my pre-kids life. J And I could tackle huge tasks that dumbfounded other people. They thought I was like Super Girl. It didn’t even faze me. But now everything overwhelms me. My living room overwhelms me. My kitchen overwhelms me. My dishes overwhelm me. My huge candlestick collection, my purses, my bracelets, my mirrors. I have too much of everything. But I don’t want to get rid of it. By golly, it was a bargain! And I love my stuff. Whoever said that your possessions own you had it right. But I’m too hard headed to give them up yet. J

So for now, I have to accept myself with all my flaws and stop complaining. If I’m cluttered or uncluttered, plotter or pantser, slow writer or fast writer, glass half full type or glass half empty type, whatever I am. It’s MY LIFE. I have to OWN IT and DEAL WITH IT.

If I’m fat. Be happy, or shut up and lose weight. If I’m cluttered, laugh at it, or shut up and de-clutter. I will laugh with myself while I’m polishing away my flaws like problems in a manuscript.

14 comments:

Carlene Love said...

Hi Anita! You know what, by the end of your post, it sounded like you'd gotten a little of that old you back. Here's to keeping you on that path and even though you have lots of stuff with the potential to overwhelm, just remember to get the last laugh! I really enjoyed your post--have a great "underwhelming" day. :)

Anita Clenney said...

Hi Carlene! Thanks so much for stopping by. I hope my day is very underwhelming. :)

Marilyn Sue Shank said...

Love that attitude! I've been diagnosed with inattentive ADD. It's the opposite of the hyperactive type. I'm hypoactive. I'm definitely the turtle in the race. Someone told me to hurry the other day. I said, "This is the only speed I have." She said, "Yeah, reverse!" hehehehe It is great to be able to laugh at yourself. And believe me, I'm so confused by stuff that I take clutter to a whole new level!

Liz Lipperman said...

There are a lot of things you can say about me but cluttered isn't one of them.....unless you look at my office!! I grew up with nine siblings in a teeny tiny house where we always had hand-me-down furniture everywhere. I swore I would never live like that again.

I like to shop, too, but I've backed off now that I'm older and have so much. I'm starting to OWN the fact that I will never be skinny or tall, and it's probably too late to worry anymore about it. I try to excise an eat healthier and that's all I want to do.

Hang in there on that deadline. I'm just starting a new book today. Pray for me!!

Lindsay said...

A little clutter in ones life is a good thing. So a lot of clutter could be said to be a great thing. And for those like me, somewhere in the middle I love it. Makes me feel grounded and not so OCB at times.

Diana Cosby said...

:) Anita, I'm so about organization. Holy cow, wait, I'm a major plotter! *G* I owe my liking things neat and in order to my 33 moves. Having order is like a control issue. I agree, like where you are or change it, it's each individual's choice. Wishing you continued success!
*Hugs*
Diana
*Who will have move #34. LOL

Dana Rodgers said...

Great post Anita. I agree, own it or change it! Unfortunately, change takes time so I'm still working on mastering that part of my life. In the mean time... small steps. :-)

Anita Clenney said...

Marilyn, I love that, "reverse". I guess we all have our issues and we have to deal with them. But laughing makes everything better.

Anita Clenney said...

Liz, if I had a bigger house I wouldn't be so cluttered. So I could blame it on the small house. Austin says I would fill any size space given to me and then some.

Good luck with the new book. Don't wait until the last minute and drive yourself insane like we both do.

Anita Clenney said...

Lindsay, I SO want middle ground. I tend to be extreme but I want to be a middle person. A self disciplined, middle of the road person. Ha ha! That's me laughing the flaws away.

Anita Clenney said...

Diana, you're ex military aren't you? After 33 moves, no wonder you like order. I should have joined the military. I joke, but seriously it would have done me good. I love being spontaneous and happy go lucky, but a good dose of self discipline would do me a lot of good. I'm so pathetic I once considered trying to get on Survivor so it would force me to lose 20 lbs. Unfortunately, that was a few years ago. I didn't, and now it needs to be more than 20 lbs. :)

Anita Clenney said...

Dana, I'm finding that I love little steps. I don't always see the benefit because I like instant gratification, but the little steps are where the power lies. Bring on those small changes, one step at a time.

Kari Lee Townsend said...

Love the attitude, but if all your "stuff" overwhelms you, you don't have to throw it away...just put a different piece out for a week or so and then keep swapping that one with another one, so you have a fresh new look over and over again. And yet, you still get to keep all your favorite things. I get bored, so I love rearraging things. And yeah, I live a decluttered house, but that's only because I have 4 kids. When they were little, there was clutter everywhere. Ugh. Now I can't relax until it's gone...

Anita Clenney said...

Kari, just now saw your comment. I have thought of doing that very thing. I may give it a try.